weird dillemma.

[Shawn]

so a friend of mine's dad is pretty poor off. His life has pretty much gone down the drain due to alcoholism and some drugs. My friend wants to go see him because now his mom is pulling shit on him where she is getting child support back payments from him, taking 170 out of his 250 weekly check. The guy is living on $80 a week and is next to homeless right now. My friend is asking me if I can take him there, but I've done it before and it was an extremely uncomfortable experience for me. Like, one that I can't even describe. First having to see and interact with a person of that status, and second, having to feel my friend's embarassment and everything. I don't want to be a dick to my friend, but its such an uncomfortable experience. advice?

[Dreams in dog years]

didnt you mention about this guy before in a thread last year?

[Velcrophagist]

I was sort of in the same boat too once. My parents split and my mom did the money grab thing and since the money was meant for me I opted to let my dad keep it. It depends alot on the mother tho. My mom has a decent job and I dont ask for much anyways. I mainly didnt want to see my dad in such bad shape. I told my mom what I felt and she wa slike, "okay then, but i'm doing this for you not him"

[Shawn]

didnt you mention about this guy before in a thread last year?
I may have

[BZM]

Just say no. If your friend is in actuality a friend of any kind, they'll fully understand your situation.

[Shawn]

well unlike some people, in real life I actually have feelings.

[DeathIsIn...]

ha

[teh Mazn]

that's a tough one man.....it may make you uncomfortable, but if YOU are a good friend of his, maybe he just wants you to be there to help him and support him? i don't know. there's a friend of mine that i have in mind that i'd want to go with me if i was in that situation, just for some moral support.

[M. Diddy Oien]

i agree with mason. i don't know if its just me, but im always there for my friends when their feeling down. also, this is obviously something more than a ride, i think your friend would probably want you there so he doesn't have to deal with a lot of his parents bologne. so he could tald to you insted of talk to his parents. maybe i don't know. but i would be there for him, and i think its maybe something that he wants yout here for. but, i would also tell him that it kind of makes you uncomfortable. i would just talk about that with your friend, then judge on his reaction on what to do.

[M. Diddy Oien]

i agree with mason. i don't know if its just me, but im always there for my friends when their feeling down. also, this is obviously something more than a ride, i think your friend would probably want you there so he doesn't have to deal with a lot of his parents bologne. so he could tald to you insted of talk to his parents. maybe i don't know :confused: . but i would be there for him, and i think its maybe something that he wants yout here for. but, i would also tell him that it kind of makes you uncomfortable. i would just talk about that with your friend, then judge on his reaction on what to do.

[Shawn]

well no.. he doesn't have a ride there, and being that his father is an alcoholic, he doesn't have a liscense either. I doubt he would ask most other people for the same favor, but its not mostly support he is looking for, i know that much. Not that i'm ragging on him for it.

[Heavy Number One]

I'd help him out. You're uncomfortable but his family is all screwed up, he's taking more damage than you, and you being there probably helps him out.

[Shawn]

yeah i know thats what I should do... but i dont think anyone that hasn't experienced it can understand how awkward of a situation it is. Could you hang out with an alcoholic you've never met, having to see your friend embarrased because you have to see his father this way? Its a really weird and uncomfortable situation.

[astainedsky]

go with the gut

[bobbydanger]

that's life. awkward and uncomfortable situations. that's why i have learned to smile and nod.

[M. Diddy Oien]

i think that its uncomfortable for him too. but maybe out of all the people he could get a ride from, he feels most comfortable with you there while a bunch of personal shit going on. if i was in his shoes and you were my best buddy, i would want you there, because its probably less embarassing for him.

[burnedalivebytime]

yea man if y'all are truely good friends you can just blow the fucker off and he'll understand right? and if you run from every uncomfortable situation in your life you'll get nowhere yo .

[nubzfromok]

Explain how uncomfortable you get, and if he still wants you to go, then go. Because you might need him to do something for you.

But whatever, do what you want.

[The Primer]

i vote go...

[agenda suicide]

i say take him. he obviously asked you in particular for a reason. even if its uncomfortable, you can always say "hey man that was lame, now go buy me some bud so we can get lit."